The Designer Handbags You Won't Regret Investing In.

 

The Designer Handbags You Won't Regret Investing In.

Classic designer handbags and new collections that are worth the hype and the waiting list.

BY AMY BREWSTER AND DAISY MURRAY.

We often talk about 'investment pieces', the things that will supposedly see you through a lifetime of wardrobe crises.

Nowhere is this more true than when it comes to a handbag. A well-chosen designer bag really can last you forever, and even become a valuable heirloom after you're gone (sorry, bit morbid). Conversely, if you're interested in actually making money, as well as spending it, then a well-timed purchase and subsequent sale could help you bring in the big bucks.

Here, we dish the inside info on which classic designer bags and newer hypey items people are searching for, buying, selling second-hand and what is really worth pumping your hard-earned, long-saved money into...

The 2020 Big Hitters

Seen ubiquitously on fashion influencer Instagram accounts and street style shots the world over, the Bottega Veneta pouch was a late 2019 favourite and it looks like it’s not going anywhere in 2020.


Following on from designer Daniel Lee’s multiple Fashion Award wins back in December – including Accessories Designer of the Year - the Bottega Veneta pouch has been searched 240 times a day on shopping platform, Lyst.\

Bag searches including the word 'minimal' have also seen a huge rise on Lyst. Up 118% since December and of the results that have surfaced, bags by Bottega Veneta, Staud and By Far are the most viewed. Looks like the minimal cloud-like pouch is ticking a lot of boxes!

Possibly the most meme-able bag that ever existed (hi Lizzo) and with a huge celebrity fan base (hi Rihanna), the Jacquemus Le Chiquito Mini bag will fit your air pods, bank cards and very little else.

Not only is it popular, it’s reselling for 75% more than its original retail price. The Pochette purchase is a no brainer.

The Style Staples.

Christian Dior's Lady Dior Bag.

The Lady Dior was created in 1994 with the sole purpose of becoming a classic - and it succeeded, helped along by Princess Diana.

Originally named 'chouchou' (French for 'favourite'), it was given its current moniker as a tribute to the princess - who was known as Lady Diana Spencer before her marriage - in 1996 after she fell in love with it. She faithfully carried it for years.

ELLE UK Accessories Editor Molly Haylor thinks the Lady Dior is worth the investment, 'This is a perfect investment piece because, unlike statement bags, this basically never changes. The size, and normally the colour stay the same so it’s extremely symbolic. You'll never have to get the updated version.'

Chanel's 2.55 Bag.
Meet the ultimate investment bag.

The 2.55 is a singular rectangular shape and was created by Gabrielle Chanel in 1955. Not to be confused with the Chanel Classic Flap bag, although the two do share a strong resemblance.

The difference being the 2.55 has a rectangular 'Mademoiselle' clasp and an all metal strap whereas the Classic Flap has the interlocking CCs clasp with a chain strap interwoven with leather.

'No matter what colour or size you can spot the Chanel 2.55 in a crowd,' says Haylor. 'Chanel has created this bag every year so it's iconic structure is worth it's price tag. I also love that unlike a lot of other designer bags it's big enough to carry everything you need.'

Fendi's Baguette Bag.
Often cited as the first It bag, there are few accessories as iconic as the humble Fendi baguette. Known for it's craftsmanship, Fendi is a brand to invest in. It's not going anywhere. The Baguette style was designed in 1997 and remains just as popular 23 years later.

'Famously made cool by Carrie in Sex And The City, the Fendi Baguette has had a real comeback this season thanks to Vesitaire and Restory,' says Haylor. 'In SS19 at Milan fashion week Fendi relaunched the baguette and ever since it's been on the top of my shopping list.'

Hermès' 'Kelly' Bag.
Yes, you may be expecting to see the iconic Hermes Birkin in this list and that would indeed be justified. But we think the French fashion house's Kelly style is in fact the true investment bag.

The Kelly hasn't enjoyed quite the level of overexposure as its label-mate, meaning its altogether more understated look and cleaner lines seems as fresh today as they did in the 1930s, when it was first created.

Known initially as the Sac à dépêches, it was renamed the Kelly in homage to Grace Kelly, a life-long fan of the style who famously used it to shield her first pregnancy from the ever-present paparazzi.

Each bag takes artisans up to 25 hours to make and it's unfortunately as hard to get hold of as a Birkin. Prices start around £7,000, but a Kelly (or Birkin) is a proven investment, it will only increase in value thanks to its exclusivity and rareness.

Prada 'Galleria' Bag

Though officially called the Galleria by Prada, it is better know as the Saffiano Lux bag, after the leather it is made of, which was first created and patented by Mario Prada, founder of the brand and grandfather of its current Creative Director Miuccia Prada.

The heat-treated leather is embossed with a cross-hatch pattern that increases durability, scratch-resistance, and water-resistance.

Loved for its roomy interior and simple, suitable-for-work design, it has become a true classic over the last decade.

Bottega Veneta's Zebra Print Pouch.
In 2019, Bottega Veneta's cloud-like pouch was about simplicity and neutrality. In 2020, it's had a makeover and the zebra print version is set to be a big hit in 2020.

Celenie Seidel, Farfetch's Senior Womenswear Editor, says, 'Zebra print is undeniably having a big moment. To get your fix, look no further than this particularly pleasing, huggable textured clutch from Bottega Veneta.'

Paco Rabanne's Chain Link Bag.
Throughout the 1960s Paco Rabanne used chainmail in place of traditional fabrics and never looked back. The look became instantly recognisable and now offers a vintage and partywear feel combined.

'As something the house has been producing for such a long time, Paco Rabanne’s glomesh and chain link bags are a true classic, and a less obvious ‘timeless’ choice,' says Seidel. 'I love the new iterations of these styles under creative director Julien Dossena.'

Saint Laurent's Uptown Wallet Bag.
Carrying a Saint Laurent bag is like carrying a piece of the brand's history. The bags are named after the designer's favourite places in Paris and iconic muses and the Uptown collection is one of the most recognisable. Featuring the brand's metal logo, the new addition to the collection is destined to be a hit.

'The newest addition of the Uptown family, the wallet on a chain is proving to be one of our best sellers for Spring/Summer, and even comes with its own card holder,' says Selfridges Buying Manager Josie Gardner.

06.44

The Best Designer Handbags Worth the Investment.

 

The Best Designer Handbags Worth the Investment.

by JUDITH JONES.

You’ve reached the moment where you want to invest in a designer handbag. Congrats! A well-chosen luxury handbag is truly one of the best investment pieces you can buy. It will see you through a lifetime of wardrobe crises, serve as a trusty travel companion, and even become a valuable heirloom after you’re gone. So where do you start in the bag-buying process, and what kind of bag is really worth the investment? It is, of course, crucial you choose a style you love, but there are several other factors to consider before making the big purchase. For example, will the brand hold its value? What color should you choose? What silhouette will never go out of style?
Investing in what we like to call the holy trinity of luxury handbags—Chanel, Louis Vuitton, and Hermès—is a no-brainer when looking at the resale value. The fashion crowd has also put designers like Chloé, Céline, Gucci, and Loewe on the It-bag fashion map with styles that have become classics in their own right.
If you're ready to dip into the world of designer handbags, scroll below to see our curated list of power purses that are timeless, desirable, and make for some incredibly elusive arm candy.

1. Chanel.
A favorite of Alexa Chung, Rosie Huntington-Whiteley, and Rita Ora, the Chanel Flap Bag boasts a high resale value, and, let’s be honest, will never go out of style.

2. Louis Vuitton.
Don’t underestimate the power of this classic tote bag. The Neverfull is one of Louis Vuitton's all-time most successful bags and comes in endless material options as well as limited editions and special artist collaborations.

3. Hermès.
Inspired by Grace Kelly, this Hermès bag is a true classic that consistently retains or increases in resale value.

4. Loewe.
Made of 41 different leather pieces, nine textile pieces, and 45 pieces of cloth, along with the addition of metalwares and zips, Loewe's Puzzle bag is a genuine work of art and a style staple among the fashion set.

5. Saint Laurent.
The timeless Sac de Jour comes in a variety of colors, textures, and sizes. An ultra-chic option for the working girl.
Ensure a sophisticated look with Saint Laurent's classic shoulder bag (with removable leather tassel). It's guaranteed to work with every item in your entire wardrobe.

6. Fendi.
Designed by Karl Lagerfeld, Fendi's It bag is known for its easy-to-open pouch and statement lining that peeks through when the clasp is left undone.

7. Chloé.
Since the bracelet bag made its debut on Chloé's spring 2017 runway, it has garnered a cult following ever since.
Versatile, sophisticated, and perfect for day to night, the Chloé shoulder bag remains a power purse among the fashion set.

8. JW Anderson.
Available in an array of colors and five sizes, the now iconic silhouette and gold hardware have rapidly become a must-have on the street style circuit.

9. Christian Dior.
Lady Diana catapulted the intricately detailed Dior Lady Bag to cult status. Follow in the footsteps of royalty and get your arm around the purse that will never go out of style.

10. Prada.
Prada's nylon shoulder bag has had a huge resurgence in popularity since it was released in the early noughties—and it's been spotted in the hands of fashion girls everywhere. The classic silhouette has real sticking power and adds a casual sporty touch to every ensemble.
Loved for its spacious interior and simple, suitable-for-work design, it has become a true classic over the last decade. Plus, have you ever seen the brilliant Olivia Pope without her trusty Prada tote on Scandal? Never.

11. Bottega Veneta.
Loved by celebrities and influencers, the slouchy Bottega Veneta clutch bag is the pinnacle of fashion-girl cool—and has been a hit at every fashion month since it was released. It also comes in a mini size with the stone and tan colors being the most popular.

source : https://www.whowhatwear.com/best-investment-bags

06.06

The 9 Best Designer Bags to Invest In.

 

The 9 Best Designer Bags to Invest In.

BY AMANDA RAYE.

Almost every girl dreams of owning a designer bag like her favorite celebs. Designer bags are both luxury items and a functional handbag, and depending on the brand and style, the cost can vary significantly. If you’re thinking about finally making that big splurge, you should put a lot of thought into it. Purchasing an investment-grade quality of material and craftsmanship could end up helping you make money in the end.

When you’re ready to buy a designer bag, you should look at it as an investment in the same way you may one day invest in artwork, mutual funds, and stocks. As long as you fully understand the value of the purse you want, it could end up being one of the best investments you could make. Research is key!

Below are the types of investment-grade purses that could make you both rich and well-balanced in your objet d’ art. These purses are in order of importance and we go over why these brands are so valuable and so worth your money:
The Top Three…

Birkin Bags.
We start our list with the Birkin bags by Hermes. Hermes, a singular fashion company, invests in quality over quantity. It is this precise focus on only producing small amounts of high-quality products that make Hermes and its bags so important to the investment world. Birkin bags retain almost all of their resale value since there are so few of them. Their durability also makes their resale value better because they don’t wear down as fast.
Birkin bags are made out of the fat rectangle shape and have the iconic flap, strap, and bolt closure. These closures are recognized a mile away by the aficionado. While the bags themselves are often tote-size, their handles are small, stable and round, and they can only be worn over the arm. This is a good thing because you will want to show it off in plain view if you have one. Their value sells and resells well over $10,000. Their bulky shape and elegant, feminine details make them a stable bag to own as an investment.

Chanel Purses.
Chanel is, of course, in our top three luxury investment purses to own. Chanel is the epitome of classic, elegant, feminine style. The gold, double-C clasps, the quilted leather, and the leather-and-gold braided handle are all icons of Chanel. Today, every Chanel purse retains its value in the high double digits upon resale. When you want to complement your portfolio of purses, you must have four (or eight) of these bags.
The legendary, classic flap bag from Chanel is still one of the most popular purses in the world. The light, boxy, ergonomic design make it easy to carry, easy to handle, and tough to wear down. Your investments should always include at least one Chanel purse from the classic flap bag line.

Kusama Pumpkin Clutches.
We couldn’t have a top three of investment-grade purses without including the clutch purses from Kusama. The Museum of Modern Art carries Kusama pumpkin clutches in its store for hundreds of dollars. You know you’re a work of art if you’ve been upgraded to museum-quality care.
The gold etching, the apple-shape, and the high-end hardware make these bags some of the most extraordinary and beautiful purses of our day. Their worth can scale up into the hundreds of thousands and their rarity is increasing daily. This rarity is particularly true for the luxury bags with gold detailing and hard metal bodies. These bags are truly one-of-a-kind.

And the Rest.
Celine Crossbody Bags.
The highly functional crossbody bags from Celine are truly marvels of nature. They have wide pockets and boxy, reinforced corners. Their functionality is off the scale. The high-quality leather and swanky, curved, short handles are hallmarks of this brand and this bag. Their usability is for the modern woman on the go who can afford to wear down a classic like this.
The reinforced corners and strong leather components are what make Celine crossbody purses so friendly to the average investor. They wear down very slowly, making their resale value higher than if they had been a weaker version of themselves. If you travel a lot, get a Celine bag.

Classic, Bamboo-Handled Gucci Bags.
Gucci bags are typified by their strong, square shape and their iconic, bamboo handle. All Gucci bags are powerful, investment-grade purses, but the bamboo handle makes your bag that much more important. Luxury versions of this bag come with a special edition Jane Austen novel and the beautiful growling tiger of the Gucci brand. You can also invest in a basic black boxy purse which holds its value for many years after purchase, especially if cared for well and in good condition.

Neverfull by Louis Vuitton.
So many celebrities have been seen with the Neverfull tote bag from Louis Vuitton that it seems as if there will never be another mass-market luxury item like this again. As mass-market as it may seem, the Neverfull bags are so tough and so valuable years after purchase that they retain their value quite well in today’s market.
Louis Vuitton tests their Neverfulls by filling them with heavy weights and dropping them from a great height. This legendary toughness makes the bag that much more popular and better known. Your own Neverfull purse may last through several generations of women before it will need to be replaced. That’s an heirloom worth keeping.

Sac De Jour Nano by YSL.
The Sac De Jour Nano bag is a versatile crossbody purse that comes in a wide variety of colors. Even though it has an understated design, this makes it that much more powerful when you wear it with high-end clothing or on the runway. Both models and celebrities have used this bag in its iconic range of colors and designs to spiff up their wardrobes. Yves Saint Laurent has made a cult classic with this piece. The investment you make in this bag will hold its value in the 70% range. That’s something to consider.

Soufre Epsom Kelly Bag.
Hermes decided to wow the world with another Birkin-style bag with the classic Hermes flap, strap, and lock closure. This purse is truly a handbag, being much smaller than traditional Birkins, and the lime green and lime yellow leather options are fantastic. This bright neon coloring makes the bag really pop. The red leather interior and boxy design make this bag seem like a secret within a secret.
This is one of the newest investment-grade purses on our list and yet it still holds its value very well. We like how fresh and understated it is for a bright pop of color.

Saffiano Lux from Prada.
Our last bag is a Prada bag. In classic Prada style, it carries an old-school Italian look and feel. The metal feet, handy straps, and range of understated French colors make this purse feel as if it came from Paris, instead of Milan. The blending of these two styles give this purse an authentic, international feel.
Saffiano Lux is a luxury option in and of itself, retailing for well over $2,000. You are guaranteed at least 50% of its original value on resale. The clean blues and dark greens make this purse worth spectacular levels of respect. Remember to always treat it with care.


Your investment in a high-quality purse is not just for your financial return if you were to pass it on. It is about your own personal style and whether it speaks to you as a person. Enjoy your shopping and invest well!
What is your dream bag? Let us know in the comments below!

source : http://brokeandchic.com/top-selling-purses-to-invest-in/

05.39

The designer handbags worth the investment.

 

The designer handbags worth the investment.

By FRANCESCA WALLACE.
There’s nothing quite like buying a new handbag. The smell of new leather, the thrill of opening that box and the feeling of wearing it for the first time— nothing really compares. But when deciding on the perfect bag there can be much more to consider than just the basics. For many, a designer bag is a lifelong investment, and looking towards the future resale of the bag is of utmost importance. And like most things in life, not all bags are created equal. We’ve rounded up the bags that stand the test of time, and that are worth investing in if you’re looking for a long term, classic option.

Céline Box Bag.
As one of Céline’s most iconic and timeless styles, the Box Bag remains a firm favourite for re-sale value. Despite an expensive initial purchase (they sell for $5,400 in Australia), they’re hard to come by once used as they tend to sell out immediately. Plus, with Phoebe Philo’s departure from the brand, Philo-era Céline will only become more timeless—and expensive.

Hermés Birkin.
Perhaps the most famous of investment designer bags, the Hermés Birkin is a sure bet for guaranteeing great resale value. Expertly crafted and known for their celebrity owners (hello, Kris Jenner owns a whole cupboard full), the Birkin can fetch anywhere between 80 and 100 per cent of the original value on resale. Plus, owning a Birkin might just be the biggest fashion status symbol, well, ever.

Louis Vuitton Neverfull.
As one of the cheaper entries into the Louis Vuitton stable, the Neverfull manages to sell again and again. Retaining up to 85 per cent of its price once bought, the Neverfull’s logo print material and tote bag style continues to be the perfect combination for travelling or work. A trusty (and handy!) investment. Keep your eye out on eBay, as they can often be spotted hiding there.

Chanel Classic Flap.
With the name classic in the name, you know it’s got to be good. Famous for a reason, Chanel’s tried-and-tested Flap bag is a surefire investment piece. As studies have found, a Chanel bag is a better investment than a house, reselling up to 70 per cent per year—a much better percentage than most other investments.

Chanel 2.55.
With an understated style that only gets better over time, the Chanel 2.55 is an investment piece if we ever saw one. Coming in a range of colourways and fabrics, plus complete with a timeless gold chain, the 2.55 has proven a bestseller since its inception in 1955 (hence, the .55). Reselling at more than 50 per cent of their original value on bags more than a few year’s old, the 2.55 is a surefire investment piece.

Gucci Soho.
Gucci’s reign continues to be supreme, with resale value on Gucci clothes, bags and shoes staying at a steady rate. One of the most popular Gucci items, the humble Soho handbag, is one of the most popular, and can retain up to 80 per cent of its retail value in resale. A firm fan favourite, the Soho is a good buy if you want to resell within a few years—as the style is rather new there’s no firm data on how it will perform in the future, but if Gucci’s reputation is anything to go by, it’s going to be successful.

source : https://www.vogue.com.au/fashion/accessories/the-designer-handbags-worth-the-investment

05.01

10 Fashion Mistakes You’re Probably Making.

 

10 Fashion Mistakes You’re Probably Making.

Hello Everyone.

Even the most fashionable people can commit a fashion faux pas. Sometimes, these fashion mistakes can be so subtle that we don’t even recognize them. Here’s a rundown on top fashion mistakes—see how many you’re making and how to avoid them moving forward.

1. Wearing ill-fitting clothes.
There are two scenarios this could happen: trying the over-size trend or hiding your body. While over-sized clothing is in trend and can be stylish, there are ways to be able to pull this off correctly. If you wear something too oversized, you’ll look sloppy and lose your figure.

Sometimes, we think that we can hide fat and bumps in our bodies by wearing baggy clothes, not realizing that this can actually make us look larger. The best way to look flattering is to get the right size and kinds of clothes according to one’s body shape.

2. Wearing pants or trousers that are not tailored well.
There are various kinds of pants that are in trend, but make sure you’re not looking messy just because they’re comfortable. Don’t wear pants loosely when they are meant to fit snugly. If your trousers are too long and you’re mopping the floor, have them tailored.

3, Under-accessorizing or wearing too much bling.
Accessories can complete an entire outfit. It could be the perfect heels, the right bag or jewelry. Under-accessorizing could leave your well-planned wardrobe less stunning, and wearing too many accessories could lead to your audience cringing. Make sure that you aren’t too sparkly or “too full” with layers of jewelry, neck scarves or headbands. You can have statement jewelry like personalized necklaces that you can don daily without worry.

4. Showing too much skin.
 Even if showing skin is in, too much skin can ruin the elegance you’re going for and turn you to being trashy instead. If you’re showing flesh on the upper part of your body, cover up down below and vice versa. A stylish way to bare skin is to wear midi and slinky dresses instead.

5. Wearing the wrong bra size.
 Wearing a bra a size smaller or bigger will not give you the right lift and support that your bust needs. Many don’t realize that wearing well-fitted bras actually make them look slimmer. If you are full-busted, there arebra hacks available for you too.

6. Wearing stockings or foot socks with sandals and open-toe shoes
 Thanks to more innovation, there are now toeless socks that can be worn with open-toe or peep-toe shoes. There are even open-toe thigh-high stockings available online. This is why it’s absolutely imperative that you don’t wear socks that ruin an otherwise perfect pair of open-toe shoes! This is a fashion faux pas that conjures up the image of your dad wearing white socks with sandals—ew! Applying moisturizer daily will also give your legs a glossy look without the stockings, and make them healthier too.

7. Wearing the wrong underwear.
 You might think that underwear isn’t very important in terms of fashion mistakes because it’s under your clothes anyway. However, wearing the wrong underwear cut for your outfit will make your shape less flattering. Some underwear textures also may not go with your outfit and may show through or have visible lines. It is essential to wear the right underwear size to make sure that you are comfortable. Imagine the discomfort of underwear that sags or that is too tight. If you need another reason to go shopping for new underwear, tight underwear can also cause yeast infections in women and low sperm quality in men.

8. Not dressing for your body type or shape.
While it’s true that you can wear whatever you want, doing so will not always enhance your figure. With the help of visual style guides all over the internet, you will be able to determine your body shape, and the type of cuts or styles will flatter your body. For example, don’t pick clothes that cut on the widest parts of your body.

9. Neglecting the tiny details.
Sometimes we think that something is too small for someone to notice. The fact that you did notice that run in your stockings, coffee stain, or missing button means that others will too. Before you put something on, examine your clothes, and do the same after you’ve put them on, before heading out the door. These tiny details could say a lot about you, especially if you’re heading to work or an important event.

10. Not dressing appropriately according to the occasion
Most events have invitations that specify the dress code. As part of showing your respect to the host, make sure that you adhere to the dress code and get a better idea of the occasion by researching similar events. You don’t want to be under dressed or overdressed—it would be very awkward and uncomfortable for you to sit through the entire thing.

There are many fashion rules, and for sure, there are still other mistakes we might be committing. Nonetheless, make sure you avoid the basic mistakes by taking tips to correct them. Be more aware, but still be yourself!

12.20

8 Fashion Mistakes You’re Probably Making.

 

8 Fashion Mistakes You’re Probably Making.

By Deb Schwartz.

Even if you consider yourself a stylish person, we’re all prone to making some fashion faux pas every now and then. We’re not talking about so-called “rules” like wearing white after Labor Day, donning outdated clothing, or following some cringe-worthy trends (to each her own!). We’re talking about overspending, questionable styling with ill-fitting clothes, premature destruction of wardrobe items, and extreme eye-rolling by loved ones about that one item you just can’t get rid of… even though it’s falling apart. Don’t despair—there are some easy fixes! We understand your wardrobe problems—and asked the experts to help you solve them once and for all. Are you prone to getting a little too spend-happy at a big markdown sale? We have some budget-friendly tips for getting the most out of a special offer and staying focused on what you do and don’t need, so you don’t get left with clothes you thought looked good at the store but will never wear. Or maybe you always end up wearing the same clothes over and over again because your closet is far from organized and you don’t feel like searching its depths? There’s a solution for that—it involves specific hangers, regular decluttering, and creating an off-season storage spot. If you find yourself wearing ill-fitting clothes or undergarments that are uncomfortable, there are plenty of ways to change up your look (and no, it doesn’t involve getting a completely new wardrobe or spending a lot of money). Use these ideas to overhaul your wardrobe and be confident in your clothing choices.

1. Desperation Shopping.
The Problem: A big event—a we­dding, a Bar Mitzvah, a special birthday— looms on the calendar. Instead of heading to a store you can count on, with plenty of lead time, you refine a list of reasons not toshop: I don’t know what to get. I don’t have the time/money/energy. Maybe there’s some­thing in my closet I can wear! At the last minute, you panic and race to make a purchase, perhaps plunking down extra cash for express shipping—to end up with something pricey that you don’t love and may never wear again. You don’t look your best, and you feel like a ding­-dong for overspending.

The Solution: As soon as you get an invitation, schedule time on your calendar to figure out what to wear. When assessing your own clothes, bear in mind that with the addition of borrowed, thrifted, or rented accessories, your problem­-solving dress or outfit might be right in front of your face. If you’re certain that you have nothing that’s right, consider a site like , where you can borrow from an extensive library of new­-season designer clothes at reasonable prices. (An evening dress for a wedding can rent for as little as $30.) Make sure to leave yourself at least four days before the event—a minimum of one for shipping and three to exchange (just in case). If you would rather own, you might want to sign up for a service like Keaton Row (), which pairs you with a personal stylist who can help you pick out items or put together a head­-to-­toe look. Meanwhile, do a gut check. Maybe you’re stressing about choosing an outfit for reasons that have nothing to do with clothes. Is there something about the event that makes you uncomfortable? Are you scared to encounter someone you haven’t seen in a long time, or worried a family event will remind you of a loss? Maybe you’ve imbued your outfit with magical qualities. (If I don’t get the perfect dress, the day will be ruined.) Identifying your feelings—either on your own or with a trusted confidante—helps put the task of getting dressed into perspective.

2. Markdown mania.
The Problem: Sales and special offers cause you to lose your mind. Budgeting and good sense leave the building. You end up with clothes that you don’t need, would never wear, and don’t even look good in.

The Solution: Bargains are the number one reason that people end up with useless items, and flash sales only heighten the risk. So before you click “buy” or bolt to the checkout counter, pause. Reflect. Is it the thrill of the bargain that you’re responding to or the item itself? Ask your­self, If this were full price, would I still want it? Do I need it? Imagine what you’ll wear it with and for what occasion. Ask yourself what else in your closet serves the same purpose. Then think about how many hours you work to earn the money that you are about to blow on this item. And take a second to consider what else you could spend that cash on if you didn’t spend it here. If you’re good with the answers you come up with, then proceed with confidence. (And, by the way, congratulations on money well spent.)

3. Cobbler Phobia
The Problem: Failure to engage in preventive maintenance and regular rehab of footwear. Such behavior can result in beyond­ repair leather, trashed soles, and premature shoe death.

The Solution: Spare yourself and your wallet grief with this simple regimen for your best pairs. Treat new shoes with a lightweight, breathable water­ and stain­-repellent spray before the first wear. (Try Protect All, .) Then, depending on how often you use them, give shoes a spritz every week or so. (It’s like putting on moisturizer: It’s not a one­-and- done situation.) Keep daily grime from setting into permanent stains with a quick once­over after each wearing; use a soft cloth for leather and a bristled brush for suede. (Spots on suede can be treated first with a special eraser.) When leather­-soled shoes and boots are young, have a skilled cobbler add thin protective rubber soles. The look won’t be compromised, and they will last much longer. Don’t put this task off: If the original soles are too far gone, thin rubber soles won’t save them. Have the rubber replaced when it starts to wear.

4. Cloeset Disorder disorder.
The Problem: Piling multiple tops onto a single hanger, over­-stuffing drawers, and cramming hanging rods so tightly that the jaws of life are required to extract clothes. Plumbing the depths feels so overwhelming, you default to grabbing what’s just out of the laundry—which means that you end up wearing the same things over and over and over again.

The Solution: First, carve out and honor an off­-season storage spot. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Attic, basement, a spare dresser, under­-bed bins—whatever you can make happen. Twice a year, move off­ season clothes out of sight. During this transition time, get rid of what no longer fits, suits your life, or makes you happy. And to ensure that you never (again?) end up with 12 pairs of black pants, organize the winners first by type and then by color. Use the correct hanger for the task: Lightweight, flat flocked hangers work for thin, light tops; sturdier hangers maintain the shape and structure of coats and blazers. Heavy knit sweaters and dresses will stretch if hung; instead, fold them and store in drawers or on shelves. Protect trousers from those telltale knee creases by hanging them from the bottom, on clip­-style trouser hangers. Store handbags (emptied of pens, gum, and anything else that might leak or attract pests) on a shelf separated with clear dividers or, if you have no shelf space, on large S­-hooks on the closet rod.

5. Purse Paralysys.
The Problem: Carrying your everyday bag to a wedding, schlep­ ping your work tote to a weekend party, or sporting a dark leather bag with a bright sun dress in July— you know, failing to change your bag regardless of season or occasion. You tell yourself that you can’t be bothered. (It’s such a pain! Who wants to think about it?) But inside you know that it’s an easy fix that will make a difference. Still, assembling (or paring down to) the right collection can be tricky. So the thought cycle continues.

The Solution: It’s pretty simple, really. The bag’s weight and material, like your clothes, should reflect the season’s temperature and esprit: darker and heavier for fall and winter, lighter all around for spring and summer. And you want to be prepared for any occasion (work, weekend, evening). You don’t need a bag in every color of the rainbow— just two or three for cold weather (say, a black or brown leather satchel for work, a slouchy bucket bag for weekends, and a velvet clutch for evening). And two or three for warmer months (a light, neutral tote for work; a bright handbag for weekends; and a raffia clutch for evening). Shop your own collection first. You might have all you need. And once you weed out (and donate) the excess, switching bags won’t feel like a big deal.

6. Taylor Avoidance Syndrome.
The Problem: You fall for a piece of clothing, but the sleeves or the hem is a little long—or there’s some gaping at the waist. You tell your­ self that it’s fine, no one will notice. And besides, you already paid so much for it, how can you justify spending more on tailoring? (Or, on the flip side: You spent only $25 for it. Why spend another $25 on tailoring?) Alteration aversion (another name for TAS) can also be chalked up to plain old laziness. (Who needs another errand?) But the truth is, you do—to look more pulled­ together and feel more confident.

The Solution: Take advantage when­ever a store offers free or low­-cost alterations. (What you lose in instant gratification, you’ll gain in compliments; even the least expensive item looks exponentially pricier when tailored to fit.) Ask around for a good local tailor, so that you’ll always have someone at the ready. And when you back­slide and are tempted to skip the alterations, remind yourself that fit is a key component of style. If Katharine Hepburn’s trousers hadn’t sat just right on her waist and skimmed her shoes just so, she would have been a schlump instead of an icon.

7. Attachment Disorder.
The Problem: You refer to a certain sweater, jacket, or pair of jeans as your best friend. When you look back through your selfies or when people tag you on Facebook, you always seem to be wearing said friend. You are experiencing creeping doubts about the health of this relationship.

The Solution: Take a good, hard look at old faithful, and consider if it’s still earning its keep. If you have even once said to yourself, “Oh, no one will notice this stain/rip/fraying,” it’s time for a second opinion. Ask an honest and kind friend (of the human variety) to weigh in on its style (does it look up to date?) and attractiveness (does it flatter you?). It’s possible you have a genuine classic on your hands, something worth the investment of an alteration or a special cleaning. But there is a difference between a classic and something that’s just...old. If an item has deep sentimental value, you can treat it like a work of art: Frame it, take a photo of it, use it as a centerpiece for a quilt, or pack it away for posterity. If it’s not worth that treatment, bid it good­bye and trust that you will love again.

8. Undie lying issues.
The Problem: Your panty lines aren’t just visible through your clingy skirt—they’re unmissable. You’re spilling out of the top or sides of your bra, and the lace cups are making your shirt stick where it should slide. Your shapewear is squeezing you like a sausage casing, you can’t remember the last time you didn’t have a wedgie, and you feel deeply unsexy.

The Solution: First, see a bra fitter at least once a year. Bodies are constantly changing, and skilled guides are at your service—free. , , , and the mall stores  and  all employ well­-trained fitters with the know­how to address everything from back bulge to gaping shirt buttons. Second, explore the vast array of seamless panties. (Buy a single pair of a few different styles, then stock up on the winners.) Third, know that shapewear should not torture you. The key is to opt for breathable, lightweight raw­-edge pieces (try the Vanishing Edge line from Soma) and select the size that you really are. Remember that underthings have a limited life span. Stretched­-out elastic and wires that poke through are signs that items are ready for the trash. (Once the garments are purged from your drawer, there’s no chance you’ll accidentally wear them.) And, finally, as you restock, think about matched sets and pieces in your favorite colors.Then the first things you put on in the morning will make you feel comfortable, confident, and attractive. And that will make a happy difference in your day.

12.08

5 Small Style Mistakes You’re Probably Making

5 Small Style Mistakes You’re Probably Making.

Have you ever looked at someone who’s style you really admire and thought, “wow they always look so put together, not a hair out-of-place.” and then you try to replicate it and something is just off. I know that feeling. Until I figured out that the devil was in the details I was right where you are.

You already know how to dress well, but something just seems off. There are probably some simple style mistakes you didn’t even know you were making.

1, Nails.
I’m that girl who is constantly in the nail salon getting her SNS powder refilled. I absolutely hate bare nails with a fiery passion. But not having your nails done is one mistake you could be making. Think back to any fashion blogger, celebrity, or even TV show personality who’s style you admire. Can you think of a moment where their nails aren’t done?
Even if they don’t go full acrylic and tips, do they ever have chipped polish, hangnails, or gross cuticles? No, and neither should you.
Now, I’m not saying you need to live in the nail salon because that isn’t realistic for anyone who doesn’t have a glam squad, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put an effort into keeping your nails looking good. Personally, I don’t think bare nails should ever be worn because you are more likely to make them unkempt (not shaped, uneven lengths, and grown out cuticles). At the very least I suggest a nude creme polish, just to keep everything smooth and cohesive. Just do something with them!

2. Slightly Ill-Fitting Clothes.
Now I’m not talking this is obviously one or two sizes too big. I talking it’s just a bit off. It’s ever so slightly off. But it’s just noticeable enough. This occurs most often in two instances.
Something is just a tad too long.
The shoulder seam is slightly lower or higher than where it should be.

3. Length
Let’s talk too long. I don’t mean it’s too long because I hate longline tees (which I don’t I actually think they are super cool), I talking this is a normal blouse and it’s just falling in an awkward area. Like it’s not fully covering your butt to make it longline, but it isn’t half an inch below your pants line. It’s in that weird middle area where if you are wearing pants, just throws off the proportion of the entire look.
Thankfully there are a few options you have to fix this. The most obvious is taking it to a tailor to get it fixed. This is the best way to get a garment that you love fixed and wearable in any way. But, since any normal person can’t do that with everything they own, on to option number two. You can find a different way to style the piece. Instead of letting it hang loose on you over some jeans try tucking in the front of the shirt to give it a little more personality. You could also style it tucked under a skirt which would completely hide any length issue. Choosing to style it a different way would also push you to experiment with your style which is always a good thing.
Pants can also be too long as well. Yes, there is such a thing as having a nice stack to your jeans, but there is also such a thing as too much. Again, taking your pants to the tailor will fix this problem in a snap, but again that’s not always a realistic option. A potential quick fix would be to cuff your pants. It solves your problem and adds a bit of flair to your look. (Or you can just do what I do and not wear pants)

4. Shoulder Seams
Let’s talk weird seams. I have fallen victim to the off shoulder seam many times. It’s something that you can easily ignore in the dressing room, but once you get home you find yourself never picking that piece.
The seam for your shoulder should never fall on the actual curve of your shoulder. It’s too big. No ifs and or buts. It will not look good. Your seam should also never fall on or above your bra strap (or mid shoulder for the guys out there). It’s amazing how you got the shirt on in the first place considering how small the armhole would be in relation to your body. The seam should fall just before the actual curve of your shoulder. That’s how you know it’s a perfect fit.
There really isn’t any fix to this. You just can’t buy it. Take your time in the dressing room and really evaluate that top. You don’t want to waste your money. A style that you could look into that doesn’t have this problem is the drop shoulder. The seam falls about halfway down your bicep so if it’s a bit too big or a bit too small, it’s much less noticeable.

5. Wrinkles
I will admit I am guilty of this. Sometimes you just want to wear a shirt and it’s wrinkled and there is just no time to fix it. But wrinkles literally can ruin an outfit, no matter how put together it is. Wrinkles make you look like a mess and there really is no other way to say it. All the hard work and planning you put into that look essentially goes down the drain.
Wrinkles can and will appear on any type of clothing. Sweaters dress pants, dresses, blouses etc. It might be your favorite shirt but people will concentrate more on the wrinkles than the piece itself.
Obviously, wrinkles are one of the easier mistakes to fix. An okay iron on the right setting will do the trick. Just press down firmly and take your time so everything is smoothed evenly. What’s worse than natural wrinkles? Ironed in creases that are in the wrong spot. If you’re feeling fancy you could also get a steamer. That would prevent any potential creases. That just seems like a bit more work though and it takes more time. But if you’re clumsy and worried about burning your clothes a steamer might be a good option. If you are an on the go type of girl, wrinkle release will become your best friend. Toss a bottle in your bag and use as needed. But remember to read the labels! Don’t just spray all your clothes. Make sure that you are only spraying it on fabrics deemed suitable by the brand.

12.00

5 FASHION MISTAKES YOU’RE PROBABLY MAKING

5 FASHION MISTAKES YOU’RE PROBABLY MAKING.

I know, I know. It’s hard to hear you might be making fashion mistakes, especially since fashion can be so personal. Hopefully, we can help you perfect your style while giving you 7 fashion mistakes you’re probably making.

1. Buying The Same Things.
I’m so guilty of this. It’s really annoying. But I find myself purchasing the same things over and over again. Usually this happens because you find something you like and consider your go to. I tend to over do it on white t-shirts and beige sweaters.

Whatever items might be your guilty fashion pleasure, it’s usually good to stick to two items. So, if you already have two comfy beige sweaters, maybe show a little resistance next time you see them on sale at H&M.

2. Wearing Dark Shoes with Light Outfits.
This is a fashion mistake I’ve been guilty of many times. I tend to wear very light colored tops and bottoms, but most of my shoes are black or another dark color. This is definitely a fashion no-no. So, if you’re wearing a mostly light outfit, don’t forget to pair it with equally light footwear.

No, this doesn’t necessarily work in reverse. You can totally pull off a black top and jeans with white shoes.

Fashion can be weird sometimes.

3. Covering Your Booty.
Now hear me out, please. There are totally reasons to cover your booty when wearing leggings or tight jeans, but if you’re not wearing leggings to the gym – I think you should show off your butt.

Doing so will give you a slimmer look and showcase your booty.

Win-win!

4. Wearing Undergarments That Show.
Now, there is a right time and place to wear undergarments that show. But… most of the time it isn’t a good look.

For instance, if you’re wearing a strapless dress… please, please don’t wear a strapped bra.

5. Wearing Too Much Jewelry.
Ugh, this is a huge pet peeve of mine. Jewelry is meant to be an accessory – not a huge focal point. But, I see so many women wearing huge earrings, a large necklace and then a shiny watch!

Please just stick to wearing maybe one jewelry piece that is larger, or brings focus to the piece and not a hundred.

Conclusion.
So, there you have it.
My top 5 fashion mistakes you’re probably making.

11.32

16 Tips on How to Be Beautiful (part 2).

 

16 Tips on How to Be Beautiful (part 2).

written by Silas & Grace.

9. Emphasize Your Facial Symmetry.
All of us have uneven faces—sorry, it’s just true!
And by that I mean the left side of our faces looks a bit different from the right: maybe our noses are slightly crooked, or our lips don’t curl out totally symmetrically, or one of our eyes is slightly bigger than the other or is slightly higher up our face than the other, etc.
A 2002 study from Stanford University found that facial symmetry is “inherently attractive to the human eye”.
Luckily for us, there are makeup tips and also massages that can help with that! Here’s are some massage tips taken from a featured video just below:
Massage your mouth’s chewing muscles by rubbing your fingers or knuckles on them in a circular motion for 1-2 minutes per day.
Massage the dip located underneath your ear and the edge of the jaw for 1-2 minutes per day.
Open your mouth as wide as possible and place the palm of your hands on each cheek without pressing, repeat a few times per day.
Place a pencil or chopstick in your mouth and hold it in place using your back teeth. If your face is asymmetrical, the pencil or chopstick will be slightly off horizontal. Adjust your jaw until it is more horizontal and then rotate your head left to right about 30 times per day.
PS. Next time you see Tom Cruise, notice how his front middle tooth is in the center of his face. You’ll never un-see this!

10. Work on Your Hair.
Not everyone’s hair is the same. Simply reading the instructions on the shampoo bottle that say “lather, rinse, repeat” won’t cut it for everyone! Here are some beauty tips for those wondering how to get beautiful hair.

If you dry your hair with a towel, don’t rub but gently squeeze (rubbing causes split ends and removes shine).
Use a variety of brushes—e.g. Paddle brushes for detangling longer hair types, Boar-bristle brushes to make hair smoother, and Wet brushes to gently brush hair when it’s weakest when wet.
Shampoo less, e.g. every other day. If you must use shampoo more, use dry shampoo on off-days and blow dry it out to remove excess dirt.
If you have curly hair leave a little conditioner in after showering to help with brushing.
Use argan oil for lusher, healthier hair (it’s also good for your skin and scalp!)
Eat foods rich in omega-3 (e.g. salmon, sardines and egg yolks) to get shinier hair and potentially reduce hair loss
Use your blowdryer’s cold air setting to blast cold air a few times after you’ve finished drying your hair with hot air. This can increase shine.
Consider adding shades and highlights/lowlights to your hair since it increases the appearance of shine — for home use, try Clairol Perfect 10 for Dark Brown, Ash Brown, Reddish Brown, Light Blonde, or Dark Blonde depending on your hair color.

11. Skin.
Taking care of your skin is so important when learning how to be beautiful. It can prevent early aging, can help keep it clear, and can boost your own sense of beauty—since oils, breakouts, and unnecessary wrinkles will often lower your self-esteem.
If you want to know how to get beautiful skin, simply do things such as washing and exfoliating to generate cell turnover (reducing the appearance of wrinkles), moisturizing, taking off excess oils with a tissue blotter, and placing a mask or essential oil on your skin to help your beauty shine through.
Also, eating the right foods and drinking lots of water will give you beautiful skin as well. Here is a table that breaks down the best foods for healthy skin:

12. Wear Lip Balm Overnight.
To make your lips look more hydrated and healthy, apply a little bit of moisturizing lip balm to them when you go to bed. Do this each night and you’ll soon have beautiful and lush lips!

13. Apply Lotion to Your Feet and Wear Socks to Bed.
Another tip for bedtime, apply foot lotion to your feet and cover them with comfy socks before you get in bed. After a while, your cracks will start to heal and your feet will become smoother.

14. Healthy Weight Loss for Your Body Type.
It’s so important to learn how to love yourself and how you look before you start losing weight.
Because if you choose to lose weight and you end up having a fit body, you can still see yourself as unattractive if you don’t change your mindset. And this can sometimes even lead to body dysmorphic disorder.
But presuming you have a healthy body image, when you do choose to lose weight, there are two things you need to focus on: lifestyle change and losing weight for your specific body type.
When you change your lifestyle to a healthy one, you’re not going on a diet. Diets are just a temporary lifestyle, they’re not meant to be done for the rest of your life.
But if you eat real foods and learn how to create healthy habits, you’ll change your lifestyle to a healthier one. And that’s all apart of learning how to be beautiful.
And be realistic! Not everyone’s body type is the same, so be kind to yourself and work with what you have. That’s why I highly recommend learning about your own body type first so that you can tailor your weight loss plans so that you can work with nature, and not against it. That’s always a 100% fail-safe way to look really beautiful!

15. Stress.
Now stress is a huge factor in your attractiveness. Worry lines will start to appear and stress generally takes a toll on your physical health which ends up being shown in your outer appearance over time.
In support of this, a study has shown that men perceive women with higher levels of stress hormone as less attractive. And equally, women tend to prefer “chill” guys too.
So knowing how you can take care of your stress levels and learning how to beat them, will not only help you stop premature aging and other negative effects of stress, but it’ll also help you to be beautiful.
Plus no one appreciates a stress head, right? 😉

16. Being the Healthiest Version of Yourself.
Finally, and following on from that last point about stress, learning how to be the healthiest version of yourself will just level up your looks that extra bit more.
And I mean “healthiest” for ALL areas of your life—physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
So let’s break down my personal top 3 tips for each area on how to the healthiest you so that you can level up your attractiveness even more!

Physical Health.
Get enough sleep — Lack of sleep can lead to weight gain and dark circles under eyes. It can also lead to bad moods which may make you complain more (see tip #4). It’s important learning HOW to sleep. E.g. sleeping too much on your side or stomach can cause wrinkles.
Eat well, drink lots — With an increase in anorexia these days (11), it’s super important to realize that beauty isn’t about becoming stick thin. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling guilty for eating. Enjoy your food, eat healthily and drink lots of water, listen to your body, care for and appreciate your body’s unique shape and build, don’t listen to the lies that say you need to be more like “X” or “Y” to be beautiful…but try to avoid eating too much at night since this is where most weight gain actually starts due to over-eating outside daylight hours (12).
Exercise — Try to do around 150-300 minutes of moderate physical activity per week (13).

Emotional Health.
Learn to be self-aware — Practice understanding why you’re feeling what you’re feeling and when you are prone to feel that way. Ask yourself these questions: “What am I feeling right now and why?” and “What specifically needs to happen and at what time to make me feel this way? Are there any patterns?”
Learn to communicate — Don’t simply expect people to understand your emotional needs since part of maturing is realizing not everyone thinks and functions as you do. So learn to communicate your emotional needs with loved ones in a straightforward way that doesn’t come across as condescending or blaming. Be patient with them as they learn to understand you more.
Be humble — No one owes you anything. You’re not the center of the universe. If someone is unjustly mean to you, realize its probably not even about you but is more about their own problems. You can’t change what happens to you, but you can change how you respond to it.

Mental Health.
Be realistic about yourself — You’re not perfect, so give yourself a break more when you see the signs of your imperfection. Be kind to yourself when you need it.
Own up to your failures —Don’t go through life carrying guilts or self-loathing. Own up, be honest. Seek forgiveness. Then move on.
Be honest — Be brave enough to be honest to yourself and to others. It may cause a bit more conflict in the short-term, but long-term it’ll lead to more harmonious and stress-free living.

Spiritual Health.
Note: some people might find these a little bit “heavy”, but I personally find they challenge me and keep me uncomfortable enough to grow and move forward!

Do a silent retreat — Escape the hustle and bustle of life and try doing a silent retreat where you’re not allowed to use your phone, talk, or check emails. Confront yourself in a way you’ve never been forced to before.
Meditate on the shortness of life — You’ve only existed a very short amount of time and before you came to be, the world was carrying on without you. In a blink of an eye, you’ll pass on and the world will carry on without you again. Moreover, you’ll only be remembered by just a handful of people, who will, in turn, pass away too, and so within 100 years or so you’ll likely never be remembered again on Earth. Be grateful for life and appreciate your smallness.
Question, then question some more, and grow — With that last point in mind, question whether is there more to your life than just the immediate here and now. Be brave enough to hunt for meaning, truth, and the answers to life’s big questions. Since we’re so small and life is so short, accept the truth openly and wholeheartedly if you should find it. Aim to become humbler each year.
All these tips will make you a more balanced and well-rounded person who is more healthy and assured of themselves—which is a beautiful thing in of itself!
While knowing how to dress and how to do your makeup is all a valuable part of learning how to be beautiful, there’s so much more that goes into it.
And whether that’s boosting your confidence with posture or learning how to have the healthiest lifestyle, you can take small steps now by following these tips and learning how to become beautiful and attractive.

12.48

16 Tips on How to Be Beautiful (part 1).

 

16 Tips on How to Be Beautiful (part 1).

written by Silas & Grace.

People always tell us that the key to looking beautiful or being attractive is to have perfect makeup, hair, and outfits. But doesn’t that go without saying?
I mean, we already know that the right hairstyle, makeup, and outfit is going to make us look better, but are there other lesser-known ways to be beautiful? I feel that being attractive goes so far beyond just those three things. There are so many other factors to look at when thinking of how to be beautiful.
I’ve found that there are habits you can cultivate that will help you be seen as more attractive to other people—which is the whole point anyway, right?

These beauty tips will show you how to be beautiful and reveal why they make you beautiful when you follow them.
1. Posture.
One of the interesting things I’ve noticed with having good posture is that as soon as you straighten your back when sitting, most other people around you will automatically do it too.
I’m not sure why that is: maybe they want to emulate a good habit or they feel strange being slumped over while you’re sitting more elegantly?
But having good posture is one of the key things you can do when learning how to be beautiful, and a 2009 study from Ohio State University even found that it can give you more confidence in your own thoughts.
Moreover, another posture-related way to be more beautiful is to unfold your arms.
Vanessa Van Edwards, over at Science of People, posits that one way to increase attractiveness is to look open and available. Among the other ways she highlights, she lists uncrossing your arms (and your legs too when sitting down) as a way to look more open, and hence more attractive.
Good posture makes you look more graceful and feel more confident. It’s definitely worth training yourself to get into the habit of having good posture! You’ll stand out in the crowd, but only in a good way.

2. Genuinely Smile.
Want to know how to be beautiful naturally without even using makeup? This is how.
A 2013 study of psychologists found that “the evaluation of attractiveness is strongly influenced by the intensity of a smile expressed on a face”. And it even went on to conclude that “a happy facial expression could even compensate for relative unattractiveness.”
From my own experience, I’ve also found that a smile can be really inviting and remove any intimidation. Meeting new people can often be draining and sometimes even scary, so a genuine smile can really put other people at ease!
My tip? Practice doing a genuine-looking smile in the mirror that looks happy, sincere and not awkward or creepy. You’ll be amazed at how much more people will perceive you as beautiful—even if sub-consciously.

3. Less Talking.
There always seems to be those people in a group or at a party that talk…a lot. And it can go either one of two ways. One; they’re funny and outgoing, the life of the party. Or, two; they say a whole lot of nothing and it’s exhausting just to hear them go on and on.
One of the lesser-known tips to look beautiful is to say less but say a lot.
What I mean is, when you speak, have something to say. Give people food for thought and show yourself as wise. And you know what, that’s actually what the Bible says too!
“Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” (Proverbs 17:28)
Whether you believe the Bible contains the words of God or not, there’s no denying that this ancient piece of wisdom is interesting and worth considering! Because appearing wise, knowledgeable and smart—or even just kind and funny with your words—makes you really really attractive.
Gil Greengross, anthropologist writing for Psychology Today says, “The effect of a great sense of humor on women’s attractions might be partially explained by the fact that funny people are considered to be more social and more intelligent, things that women seek in a mate.”
And I think this works vice versa too! Using your words well makes you look competent, and that just screams beauty.

4. Less Complaining.
Now while we’re still on the subject of talking, let’s talk about complaining because this is one of the “do not’s” when learning how to be beautiful.
Feeling frustrated about something or someone and wanting to talk about it is fine (as long as you don’t spread gossip or say something with the intention of ruining someone’s reputation). It can be very healthy to talk it over with people in a way that can help lead to practical solutions.
But don’t be that person who always finds something to complain about. You’ll be seen as a negative and/or ungrateful person. And this just ends up translating into annoying people or looking bitter. And looking bitter isn’t attractive.
Instead, learn to let go (you can’t win every battle), find ways to lift others up, lift your situation up, or find the positive things in life to talk about even when you’re stressed.
It’ll not only make you feel better, but people will naturally want to be around you. They’ll gravitate towards you because they can count on you to be uplifting. And being uplifting is one of the best things you can do when learning how to be beautiful.

5. Be Quietly Confident.
Cultivate a sense of self-worth like you would a garden. Prune and look after it carefully each and every day.
Have you ever had the opportunity to show a loved one something you were proud of? Maybe it was a beautiful craft, drawing, song, or accomplishment that you just knew they’d appreciate.
You didn’t have to convince them of its worth or worry about justifying it to them. You just knew it was valuable and that they’d appreciate it.
Well, without being too cliché, that’s YOU in a nutshell.
You don’t need to prove yourself or show off (showing off is really unattractive anyway).
You can just be quietly confident that you are worth something—because you are. And having this sense of self-worth and respect is actually SO attractive. Why? Because it subconsciously communicates to others that you are valuable.
A 2009 study from the International Journal of Cosmetic Science found that a group of women judged men in video clips as being more attractive from the confidence boost they gained by wearing aerosol spray, compared to a group of men with the same average attractiveness who did not wear any aerosol in the video clips.
So, be confident! And, even if you don’t feel confident, fake it until you make it! Harvard professor Amy Cuddy found in a study that even striking a confident pose can make you feel more successful.
In short, there are always things about yourself that are uniquely beautiful (even if you can’t see it yourself yet). Sometimes it can help to ask a loved one what they like about your appearance so you can start cultivating your sense of self-worth and recognize what is beautiful about you.

6. Stay in a Group of Friends.
Did you know that a 2013 study carried out by the University of California found that people tend to look more attractive in groups?
James Hamblin, the editor of the health channel over at The Atlantic explains this effect—which has sometimes been called “the Cheerleader Effect”—as having to do with our brains taking a snapshot of all the differently shaped faces in a group and “averaging them out”, thus making each face look more beautiful and proportioned.
The study also revealed that just a small group of people creates this effect, meaning you don’t even need to be that popular!
So want to know how to be more beautiful? Hang out with people you love.

7. Pay Attention and Mimic.
One of the more surprising ways to be beautiful, a study has shown (and it has been found in other studies too) that discreetly mimicking a person’s body language can make you appear more beautiful.
Not only that, but I reckon it also gives off the impression that you’re a good listener and are attentive to them.
So next time you’re in a conversation, try mimicking the body language of the person you’re talking to. Just don’t be too obvious about it, because that’d be kinda annoying!

8. Dress Modestly in a Way That Compliments Your Style.
Alright, so we’ve talked about what you can do psychologically to be attractive. But what about your actual appearance?
There’s no doubt about it, learning how to flatter yourself with the best hairstyle, makeup, and outfit is an essential tip for those wondering how to be more beautiful. It’s a skill you have to learn and master (search all our beauty hacks here).
But there’s a whole lot more to it than just makeup, hair, and clothes—there are attitudes and philosophies that come with it too.
Since you’ll have cultivated a sense of self-worth and be quietly confident (see tip #5), you’ll gradually begin to feel inclined to dress in a subtle way that is a positive overflow of your own sense of self-worth and which naturally communicates it to others.
And the good news is that subtlety is confident, classy, beautiful and timeless…which is why you can never go wrong with it!
Research has even found a correlation between focusing on your own body a lot and negative body image (e.g. Fredrickson and Roberts, 1997), and, when modesty is seen as a way to respect the body, a study found that “modesty emerged as a guard to protect women from some negative thinking.”
So why does subtlety work so well? In summary, it works because, first of all, it is timeless and looks great, and secondly, because it can actually help you stop focusing on your body excessively, and thirdly, because if you use it as an expression of self-respect, it can actually help protect you from negative thoughts about your body.
What does that look like for me? Well, you likely know yourself better than most, and so whatever you’ve come to appreciate about your appearance in particular, subtlely highlight that in how you dress. E.g. if you like your hair, wear it in a way that makes it more of a feature in your look but don’t go overboard with it.
And if you’re the sort of person reading this who feels they have nothing special that they like about themselves, then you seriously need to read tip #5 again!
You are enough. So use what you have—and remember, subtlety is king. (Or should I say, “Queen”!)

to be continued

12.19

10 Little Habits That Make You More Attractive (and I’m Not Talking About Looks).

10 Little Habits That Make You More Attractive (and I’m Not Talking About Looks).

By Tiffany Sun.
We don’t say this out loud, but deep down inside we all want to be attractive. No, not with a fit body or the perfect face, but having qualities that people feel magnetized to. Being the kind of person everyone wants to be with and do favors for.

Unfortunately, I took the make-up route and relied solely on my looks to make people like me more.
The cost: 2 hours of Michelle Phan makeup tutorials a day. $1,000+ worth of brushes and powders a year.
The result: The same people who treated me as their best friend earlier acted as a total stranger the day I skipped my makeup.
Yup. People do judge a book by its cover.
But, what if you could make people like you with just your personality. Or better yet, with good habits?

That’s when I began hanging out with new friends at Meetups and observing every action that draws me to them. Some of these habits might not seem as obvious to the average Joe or plain Jane, but if you start to build these habits now, you can make friends in a snap or keep the love in your relationship strong.

1. Surprise people, don’t tell them.
I remember my heart jumped when I got a beautiful bouquet of flowers one random day at work, not because it was from my boyfriend or a secret admirer, but as a surprise. I soon discovered that it was my close friend who’d sent me the unexpected gift, just because he knew how depressed I felt after realizing my ex no longer cared about me. It wasn’t the gift alone that made my whole week brighter, it was his thoughts.
The takeaway here? Don’t tell people what you’re going to get or do for them because then they expect you to deliver. Give them a surprise — it’s much more memorable and impactful than doing what you’ve promised.

2. Say “no” when you (really) don’t want to.
People respect those who speak their minds, more so than someone who always agrees with their request or invitation. Because when you say “no” to others, people see how real you are, that you have priorities, and can be honest about your feelings.
Yes, saying the “n” word might make your stomach flip but if you can get past that feeling, you’ll start feeling good about yourself.

3. Do something nice for a stranger.
Hold the door if their hands are full. Warn them before they sit on a wet seat. Pick up their dropped cash. These are things most people won’t do, but will give respect if you do.

4. Leave your ego behind and learn from those who are better than you.
You can complain all you want about how life sucks, and keep asking yourself, why am I not as smart, rich, likeable, successful, influential, or as good-looking as my better unequal? But at the end of the day, you’re not helping yourself grow. You’re not trying to become better.
Take the time to study what makes others shine. Practice over and over again. Ask if you need to. Because if you want to be the best, you have to be willing to learn from the best.

5. Be curious about everything.
It’s fun talking with others, but the moment the conversation dies because no one has anything else to say is when you start getting bored of that person. Don’t be that person, the one anxiously looking away while racking your brain for a good topic.
If you want to save yourself from that situation, you got to make people curious about you and the only way is if you’re curious yourself. Learn how things work. Ask yourself why people behave the way they do. Read about what’s happening in the world right now.
Because when you have a dozen more things to say, we automatically think you’re a smart and fascinating companion.

6. Stay calm when someone’s angry at you.
It’s not a pleasant sight to see someone screaming angrily or lashing out in a destructive way. And sometimes we just can’t help but lash back.
Don’t. Before you snap, take a minute to think about the whole situation and why you’re feeling so angry. Maybe there was some miscommunication between you two and maybe it’s best to stay calm and talk it out. This is probably the best solution to understanding people better and feeling more closely connected to them.

7. Start conversations with someone new.
Most of us feel scared when we’re away from our comfort groups, which makes it easier for people to see who’s confident and who’s not. For me, I’d always scout around for those who introduce themselves to others, because I know they’re the types who are completely comfortable in their own skin.
Break out of your comfort zone and talk with somebody you’ve never met. You’ll instantly surprise them (see point #1) and walk away with greater confidence.

8. Write a list on what you want to learn.
It drives me insane every time someone tells me that they’re bored and have no idea what to do. Or if they waste their time sleeping or watching TV all day.
Yes, people would tell me just “live in the moment” and have fun, but to be honest, that’s a very short-term point of view. What makes you more attractive in the long run is getting smarter and learning new things, everyday.
A suggestion I’d recommend that a friend recommended me is writing a list of all the things you don’t know or have little knowledge about. Update that list whenever you come across a topic that puzzles you and research it when you have time.

9. Saying thank you.
It’s simple, overused at times, but still can make a world’s difference to someone’s day. All it takes is a couple seconds to think about and appreciate what you are given, even if it’s something small like a hug.
Remember: Thank others when you really mean it, but not to the point where you go overboard (otherwise it starts to lose its meaning).

10. Make time for yourself.
If there’s one thing you can’t recover in life, it’s time. That’s why people who are constantly busy doing things they like or can improve on end up becoming more successful than someone who treats their time as if it were a measly dollar — you can waste it in a flash, but it’s something people use to build a life that’s worth living.
Remember, the most attractive thing about you has less to do with your face and body, but more with your heart and habits.

12.06

8 Habits Of Women Who Are Always Attractive.

 

8 Habits Of Women Who Are Always Attractive.

Being the best version of yourself is not always about being physically attractive. As we all know, beauty actually comes from within, and your inner beauty is what’s going to make you really stand out in a crowd.

Below are eight habits of mindful women who have understood how to improve their inner beauty and worked on making themselves attractive from the inside out. In simple words: refining simple habits may enhance one’s inner beauty, thus making a woman more attractive.
Being kind, attentive, and caring, while using polite words whenever talking to strangers and helping others when they need are just some of the beautiful traits to possess as an elegant woman.

It’s the simple habits that are attractive, the ones that help you improve yourself, and this has the power to completely change how people perceive you.
8 ADMIRABLE TRAITS OF WOMEN
#1 Attractive Women Are Honest and Loyal.
Loyalty shows your ultimate dedication to a relationship and, most importantly, your respect towards your partner. However, loyalty should not be limited to a romantic relationship. It should also always extend to your friends, family, and those you work with or interact with on a regular basis.
People who are loyal are trustworthy and admired. And there is nothing worse than compulsive liars who try to show off. People can smell it miles away and it doesn’t make you look good quite the contrary.
Being humble and down to earth is crucial to how attractive people perceive you to be.

# 2 Attractive Women Control Their Emotions.
Ok, as a Latina myself, this is easier said than done. However, this is also one of the biggest things I personally focus on improving.
Being able to control your emotions is a great way to bring logic into situations where you would normally be overwhelmed and act irrationally (big Latin oops). Furthermore, it’s such a STRONG and attractive trait to be the calm person in a room of panicking people. You have the power to set the standard for yourself and everyone else.
People are attracted to those who can keep their emotions under control, as it also gives them the strength to do so as well.

#3 Attractive Women Are Great Listeners.
Don’t be fooled. This trait is a very rare one. Everyone just wants to talk and be heard, but some women will make the effort to listen to their partner’s, friend’s and family’s problems and try to respond to them in a helpful manner.
Not only does this make the other person feel like they’re loved and respected, but that someone genuinely cares for what they have to say.

#4 Beautiful Women Forgive & Learn From Their Mistakes.
Awareness, self-reflection, and self-improvement are great qualities of attractive women. These women know how to forgive people easily and they don’t keep grudges against others, no matter how badly they’ve been hurt.
These women know that keeping grudges only brings them down and they always strive for a happier, lighter lifestyle.
A huge part of their growth is learning from past mistakes instead of regretting them. These women are always willing to grow and push themselves to become better people.

#5 They Know How To Stay Positive.
Positivity of mind, body, and soul is crucial in life for both your physical and mental health.
A lot of women have mental health issues, anxiety, and are going into depression because they have a certain difficulty perceiving the positive aspects of life, choosing to focus solely on the negative things.
This can be quite toxic and once you are inside the wheel of negativity, it can be really hard to get out.
It is important to be mindful to be positive and keep encouraging yourself, congratulating your small achievements, and never comparing to others (ever).
Remember: you’re your biggest cheerleader. Being positive helps you achieve your goals and is one for the most attractive quality to have not only as a woman but as a person.

#6 They are not afraid to follow their heart and do what they love.
Do you know that tingling feeling in our heart whenever something does not feel right? It seems women really have a 6th sense when it comes to their hearts. Ever heard of mothers who can feel when something is wrong with their kids, even when they are miles apart? Or those women who know they are being cheated on even though there is no hard evidence?
Many times I ignored my heart and life bit me in the ass.
Remember to prioritize yourself. Do what makes YOU happy. I cannot stress this enough. The world we live in is too cynical and critical, and women should NOT depend on others to be happy.
Whether you have a constant feeling that you’re not in the right relationship, or that you should quit your job, our woman’s 6th sense will always be there telling us what to do. We simply need to learn how to interpret what our heart is trying to communicate.
Listen to your heart!

#7 Attractive Women Smile Often.
Smiling not only emits positivity and happiness, but also a level of confidence. Being able to convey a smile throughout the day, even when things get tough, is one of the most attractive traits that people can have.
People don’t like someone who is grumpy. Think about it, ever walked to a counter to be greeted by a grumpy woman behind it?
How did you feel about it?
Alternatively, how do you feel when you walk into a hotel and the receptionist opens a smile from one ear to the other?
Smiling is a trait that automatically makes you more attractive and approachable. Smiling is also said to keep you healthy, sane, and positive.
So, smile and show off that confidence and prettiness to the world… And who knows you might make a new friend or meet your future partner because they fell for your smile.

#8 These Women Are Problem Solvers.
Attractive women tend to be problem solvers, both for themselves and for others. They are good-hearted people who care about their partner, friends, and family’s issues and goes out of their way to help them find a solution.
You know you can count on these women for everything in life, as they will always go out of their way to help you out of a mess.

11.54

50 Genius Ways to Be Instantly More Attractive. (part 1)

50 Genius Ways to Be Instantly More Attractive.

Everyone has those days when you wake up feeling, you know, blah. Luckily, there are some little tricks you can use to instantly give your confidence a boost and make yourself appear more attractive to others in the process. Whether it's highlighting one side of your face or switching up the way you walk, looking good has never been so easy. Here's how to nail the transformation process.

1. Wear Red.
Who knew color could make such a big difference in your level of attractiveness? A 2010 study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology found women loved it when men wore red—and, the same went for women. In a separate study from Rochester University, men were more attractive to women in red as well. It's not just clothes, either: another study found red lipstick had the same effect.

2. Show Off Your Hips.
Don't try and hide your hips—flaunt them. Wear pants that show off your figure and feel free to sway a little when you walk: One study from Texas A&M University found the attractiveness of women went up a whopping 50 percent when they strutted with a hip sway. Just like Shakira always says: hips don't lie.

3. Make Yourself Look Taller.
Research has shown women prefer taller men over the short guys of the world, but just because you can't change your height doesn't mean you can't physically make yourself look like you grew a few inches. Experts say sticking to monochromatic color palettes—otherwise known as colors that are the same shade—will make you appear taller. Plus, it looks super classy: You can't go wrong with an all-black look.

4. Highlight the Left Side of Your Face.
You might not notice one side of your face being more attractive than the other, but a study published in the journal Experimental Brain Research found people preferred the left side of over the right. Whether you're taking pictures or chatting with someone, turn your head slightly to the right to showcase your left and you'll instantly look a little better.

5. Travel in Groups.
If you've ever watched How I Met Your Mother, the cheerleader effect is actually super legit. (Well done, Barney.) A 2014 study found people typically look much more attractive when they're in groups than they do on their own. So grab your friends and hit up your favorite hot-spots in packs.

6. Fill in Your Eyebrows.
Thin eyebrows used to be portrayed as the most attractive style, but the '90s are over. After analyzing pictures of 763 women in a 2017 study, researchers found those with bold brows appeared younger and more attractive. Learn how to fill in your brows for a thicker (but still natural!) look.

7. Put On Some Sunglasses.
There might be a reason celebs wear sunglasses all the time. According to one expert, there's actually some science behind it. Researcher Vanessa Brown found people tend to look more attractive when wearing dark shades because of a few reasons: they make your face look more symmetrical, it adds a little mystery (aka sexiness), and they have a history of being cool, making you look cooler, too.

8. Walk With a Swagger.
All right, guys—just like men think women are more attractive when they sway their hips, the same study found women found men more attractive when they walked with a swagger in their shoulders. But what does that mean, exactly? Basically it's when you move your shoulders up and down as you walk. Not a lot, but just enough to look natural.

9. Show Some (Arm) Skin.
You don't have to show off your legs to appear more attractive. One study found it's actually long arms that men are super attracted to, so start sporting those sleeveless tops whenever you need a little confidence boost.

10. Get a Dog.
All right, this one might sound a little silly… but it's scientifically proven, OK? According to multiple studies (yes, multiple!) men instantly look more attractive when they're holding or simply hanging out with a dog. Plus, added bonus: you'll also have an instant new best friend who thinks you're cute no matter what.

11. Stop Trying to Look Model-Thin.
Ignore those magazine ads! According to one study, men aren't as into super-skinny, model-thin women as you think; they actually think women with normal body weights are more attractive. Instead of striving to become stick-thin, own and accentuate what you've got.

12. Stop Crossing Your Arms.
It can quickly become a habit to cross your arms when you're standing, but opening up a little will make you look much more attractive. One 2016 study found having an open posture — especially when you're first meeting someone—makes you look more confident and charismatic whether you're male or female.

13. Show Off Your Jawline.
Men who show off their jawlines instantly appear more attractive, all thanks to evolution. One 2011 review dug into the topic and found it's more appealing to women for one specific reason: it's a super masculine feature that shows genetic strength. While your beard is great and all, you might want to trim it up so your facial structure is a little more prominent.

14. Rock Your Dad Bod.
Don't be self-conscious about your dad body. Instead, be confident about the extra weight. Yale researcher Richard Bribiescas found women are super into a little pudginess, meaning those extremely jacked guys don't get to have all the fun.

15. Throw on Some Heels.
Heels might make you feel a little sexier the second you slip them on, and they're scientifically proven to make you look more attractive, too. The reason? One study found it's simply because it makes women appear more feminine, particularly in the way they walk.

16. Ditch That Slouch.
According to Dr. Liza Egbogah, a health and wellness expert focusing on body and posture, good posture can "boost our attractiveness to potential partners," helping to "induce romantic attraction in potential mates." In addition, a 2012 study found that good posture, even if held for a short period of time, can increase levels of testosterone—the "hormone associated with confidence"—by up to 20 percent.

17. Go For The Hourglass.
According to Allena Rissa, editor of TheBetterFit.com, studies have shown that an hourglass figure is widely considered a draw, so to boost attractiveness, it can help to dress in ways that help accentuate this shape. For example, Allena recommends pairing "high-waisted skinny jeans with a cute crop top or lacy bralette, and [tying] the outfit together with a matching belt." This, she says, "will help to draw attention to your waist and also cinch it in with the belt, giving you a curvy shape."

18. Stand Tall.
No matter what your gender, Dr. Egbogah says, standing up straight is the first step towards telling others that you're both interested and interesting. Among other things, it signals "youth," as well as a certain openness and alertness that a hunched-over or slouched back fails to convey.

19. Look Up Or Ahead.
Whether they're glancing at their phone or their shoes, "Both men and women find it unattractive when the other sex is looking down," says Dr. Egbogah. So, if you're hoping to attract a partner, she says, "look up and enjoy the world."

20. Wear Stubble.
According to a 2016 study, says Dave Bowden, a men's style coach and founder of IrreverentGent.com, women "find facial hair more attractive than a clean shaven face." Even more than that, however, the study revealed that, of all the facial hair lengths, stubble is the "'most attractive overall.'" So to kick attractiveness up a notch, Bowden says, "ditch the razor" that shaves your face clean, and instead use "an electric beard trimmer that will leave a degree of stubble."

21. Opt for Contacts.
If you can handle getting your hands close to your corneas, try contacts. According to a 2011 study, the stereotype that glasses make people appear less attractive was "confirmed." So, if you're up for the challenge, opt for contacts instead.

22. Get a Tan.
There's a reason, says Bowden, that "most male models have darker skin." Women, he says, are "predisposed to finding darker shades of skin more attractive" in men, as it is associated with danger, virility, and mystery. So, while it's important not to "go overboard" and end up with an "oompa loompa" look, spending a few hours in the sun or lathering with a self-tanning moisturizer can go a long way towards boosting your attractiveness levels.

23. Lean Beats Bulky.
"A lot of what guys think what women want is huge muscles," says Patrick Kenger, a men's stylist and founder of Pivot Image Consulting. This, however, isn't exactly true, as women actually prefer men who have "less body fat and appear stronger." Instead of looking to bulk up at the gym then, Kenger recommends working towards an "athletic" look, and a lean, toned physique.

24. Stand With Your Feet Apart.
Standing with your feet "a little wider than shoulder width," says Dr. Egbogah, "signals virility and fertility," and is a "huge turn-on" for women. In addition to remaining cognizant of this posture when waiting at bus stops and other public locales, she recommends using this pose in pictures for dating apps and other profiles to really catch someone's eye.

25. Wear Bright Colors.
When it comes to color palette, says Misha Kaura, a fashion designer and author of the upcoming book The Science of Style, wear "as many bright colors as possible." After all, it's called peacocking for a reason: "So much of interpretation of attractiveness," she says, "is contingent on women making themselves easily noticed" by wearing "stand-out clothing."

to be continued

02.06

50 Genius Ways to Be Instantly More Attractive (part 2).

50 Genius Ways to Be Instantly More Attractive (part 2).

26. Pull Your Shoulders Out.
In addition to standing up straight, Dr. Egbogah recommends actively "pull[ing] your shoulders back and out." This, she says, is a "power pose," and while women find it attractive because is "emphasizes the chest," men find it desirable as well as it exposes the "sensual inner wrist."

27. Hang Out with Attractive People.
While conventional wisdom says to hang out with people less attractive than you are in order to fare better by comparison, doing so won't actually boost your attractiveness. According to Kenger, when someone looks at people within a group, their brain "averages out the faces," when considering the group's attractiveness. To appear more desirable, then, it helps to be surrounded by others who can help—by their addition—to increase your groups' average attractiveness level, rather than dragging it down.

28. Don't Wear Clothing That Is Too Big.
Though fashion trends may ebb and flow—emphasizing one cut one day and another the next—it's never a good idea to wear clothes that are too big for you, says Jack Vitel, a relationship coach and founder of the relationship blog RoadToSolidity.com. While it may be part  of a larger ensemble, or a symptom of your desire to go back to the '90s, the effect it will have is only to make you appear "stubby" and "without shape." Regardless of era, he says, "fitting clothing is the way to go."

29. Mirror Your Partner.
Prefacing his tip with the warning "don't make it weird," Caleb Backe, a Health & Wellness expert at Maple Holistics, recommends adopting a partner's body language to increase your attractiveness to them. While this should be done subtly—after all, no one likes actively being overtly mimicked—doing so "shows them that you're paying attention" as well as validating them, making you seem more attractive in return.

30. Wear Clothing That Accentuates Your Favorite Features.
Don't be afraid, says Darlene Corbett, a licensed therapist and author of Stop Depriving The World Of You, to wear clothing that "accentuate[s] your bodily attributes." While you might be the type to prefer understated accents to in-your-face statements, there's no harm—and quite a lot of good—to be gained from dressing to your strengths. If you've got it, after all, you might as well flaunt it.

31. Grow a Beard.
While stubble is proven to be the most widely attractive form of facial hair, there's a niche for other designs, as well. Specifically, says Kenger, if you're looking for something "long-term," go with the (short) beard. As a result, he says, "you'll be perceived as more trustworthy."

32. Wear Rimless Glasses.
Similarly, while glasses were shown to decrease attractive in most wearers, they had their upsides too—specifically those of the rimless variety. Particularly, says Kenger, they made wearers appear "more intelligent and trustworthy." Like many decisions in life, says Kenger, "it's all a tradeoff."

33. Get The Right Haircut.
While there are endless varieties of popular new haircuts being trotted out each day, more important than anything is getting a cut which fits your face. Just because everyone else has a pompadour doesn't mean you should, too, and many of those wearing that trendy style would probably be better with a different cut, as well. You wouldn't wear the same shoes as your neighbor, after all, so why have the same haircut?

34. Groom Appropriately.
You don't need to spend "tons of time and money," says Dr. Christine Carpenter, a psychologist and dating coach at Evolve Dating Consultation, but it's important to pay at least some attention to your grooming and style of dress. At the very least, she says, "look like you put in some effort." Failing to do so, she warns, doesn't come across as unique or rebellious—like it may have when you were younger—but instead "broadcasts low self-esteem."

35. Have Your Hands Out.
Ever found yourself on camera or film and wondered: "What do I do with my hands?" Well, apparently that's not the only time to be asking yourself that perplexing question. In order to appear "strong," says Dr. Carpenter, and attract the gaze of a possible mate, it's important to have you hands at the ready and "available for action." While it may seem the epitome of cool to stroll down the block with your hands in the pockets of a trench coat, apparently it's not the most effective way to attract a partner.

36. Hold Your Head Up.
Attractiveness, says Corbett, "start[s] with how you project yourself." For her, this means maintaining a posture that keeps your head held high. As long as you don't take the opportunity to literally look down your nose at others, she says, the position "exudes a sense of confidence," and "not arrogance."

37. Don't Worry So Much.
Sometimes the best way to attract others is to simply let your guard down. While violating too many of the rules of attraction will likely end up poorly, ignoring a few here and there in an effort to appear more real can help endear you to others who themselves are likely just as confused as you are.

38. Keep Your Wardrobe Updated.
Clothes don't make the man, but they can help undo him. While it's not crucial, as Dr. Carpenter says, to remain "on the cutting edge of the latest trends," that doesn't mean it's okay to non-ironically dress like a character in an '80s movie just because you don't want to go shopping. "It doesn't take much," Dr. Carpenter says, to avoid "com[ing] across as lazy and sloppy," and a little effort goes a long way.

39. Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously.
While your strengths are what initially draw the gaze of others, it's your weaknesses that endear them for the long-term. To really up your attractiveness, then, it can be helpful to take yourself a bit less seriously, and be able to enjoy a joke or two at your own expense—and maybe even by your own hand.

40. Add Some Color To Your Face.
In the same way that bright clothing draws attention to a prospective mate, so does color on the face. To increase attraction, then, try some bright blush or a colored lipstick—anything that really makes your face pop as compared to plain ole skin.

41. Ask Questions.
While your own accomplishments and goals are sure to help gain the approval and respect of others, it can be even more appealing to appear interested in learning about the accomplishments and goals of your prospective partner. Instead of trying to woo solely by your own merit, try asking questions and learning about what makes them tick. After all, there's nothing quite as endearing as someone being interested in you.

42. Work On Your Personality.
"Studies show," says Kenger, that "judgments of physical attractiveness are influenced by familiarity, liking, respect, and talent." To boost your appearance, then, try "improving some of your personality traits," like staying positive and being agreeable. In addition, he says, while it isn't a pageant, it can't hurt to "show off some of your talents."

43. Be Confident.
"Self-esteem instantly makes you a more attractive person," says Backe. While this isn't something that can be done overnight, performing some of the associated behaviors—making "solid eye contact," engaging in "more free body language," and generally being "less guarded"—is a good start.

44. Work on Your Humor.
"Ask anybody to name the top quality they look for in a significant other," says Backe, "and you'll be surprised at how many people answer, 'a sense of humor.'" In addition to being "fun to be around," he says, this is because funny people are considered "more social and intelligent." Off-the-cuff cleverness not exactly your thing? Come with a few memorized jokes in hand and try working them into conversation—nobody has to know exactly where you got your sense of humor from.

45. Wear The Right Makeup.
Contours, highlights, thicker-than-thick eyebrows: there's no shortage of makeup trends to go around. However, just like a haircut, there's usually a makeup regimen which makes sense for each individual, rather than just the blanket "look" that graces most social media feeds. So, before deciding on what products to use, and how to use them, get to know your own face in all its pre-made-up glory.

46. Relax Your Face.
Though a stern countenance can appear mysterious, it can also ward off the very types of interactions its appeal hopes to lure. To instead appear more "approachable," says Dr. Carpenter—and the kind of person that someone can just walk up and talk to—try "relax[ing] your facial muscles." And don't fret—you can always get your jaw workouts in later.

47. Camouflage Your Least Favorite Features.
Just because an outfit or a piece of clothing is fabulous doesn't mean it has to be fabulous on you. We all have affinities for certain parts of our bodies—and less so for others—and the garments we put on them should reflect that fact. "When one says 'yes to the dress,'" Corbett explains, it should be to an outfit "which flatters," and not one which, despite its own elegance, "detracts."

48. Find People Who Share Your Values.
"Similarity," says Kenger, "creates a bond and reinforces our own beliefs." As a result, we tend to "find people who agree with our values and beliefs" more attractive than those who don't. To boost your attractiveness, then, you may just need to find a more like-minded pool of applicants.

49. Smile.
"It seems mundane," says Carpenter,"but [smiling] really counts." While you shouldn't make an effort to appear happier than you really are, she says, there's no harm in "present[ing] a side of yourself that others feel would be pleasant to be around." And if really, deep down, you're "broody or dark," she says, don't worry, others will "find this out" eventually.

50. Nod Your Head.
According to one 2017 study, when a subject nodded their head they increased their "attractiveness, likability, and approachability." So, while you may not agree with everything your date is saying, it's a good idea to nod your head like you do regardless. And who knows? Maybe after you two fall madly in love, they'll actually convince you to their point of view, making the constant nodding a whole lot easier.

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